Monday, October 17, 2016

A Catharsis and Chronology of Crude and Criminal Conduct

I share this post with trepidation.  There are no names included.  There are not even any exact dates or locations.  So I suppose my only fear is of being judged.  I lack strength in this arena, and I am sharing this as a way to both face my fears and in hopes of reaching other girls or women who are ashamed and fearful as I have been.  I share this hoping that it will let other women and girls know that they are not alone.  I want them to know that shame and fear don't have to stunt their emotional growth.  Women who have been sexually assaulted, harassed, and objectified have become successful mothers, wives, girlfriends, intimate partners, and career women.

I don't have one story of sexual assault and harassment to share.  I have many.  You may think that it is inappropriate to share these things on the internet, and I'd be inclined to agree.  But it is even more inappropriate that these things ever happened in the first place and that I have kept many of them to myself for so long.  These are my stories of sexual assault, harassment, and objectification, and in sharing them I am freeing myself from their invisible shackles.

Sunday, October 9, 2016

The State of the Union

I've been pretty good lately with keeping my opinions to myself on here, but I have to get this out. I gravely dislike Hillary Clinton. I am not on board with most of her platforms, and I believe she is a corrupt career politician who has built her corporation and her family's life on the exploitation of the middle class and minorities.

That being said, all of you who are deflecting Donald Trump's blatant misogyny, and not just the comments that most recently came to light, by saying that Bill did it too are garbage. You are trash, and you should feel ashamed. Hillary Clinton is not Bill Clinton. She is not responsible for the actions of a man, even if that man is her husband. Her choosing to stay with Bill and keep quiet is her business, and it does not place any culpability on her for any of Bill's actions. Melania is not to blame for Donald's actions, and Hillary is not to blame for Bill's.

I think it's about damn time that our society stops viewing women as only extensions of their husbands. A wife is a person. She is responsible for her own actions, but not those of her husband. If a man commits a crime alone is his wife arrested? If a man beats his wife, rapes a woman, embezzles money, is it a woman's fault? Stop being ridiculous.

I'm not going to try to claim that Donald Trump's misogyny is enough to make him a poor choice for the presidency. He does a pretty good job of not qualifying for that job outside of his abuse of women. But don't attempt to justify it. If you are one of the millions of poorly educated, white Americans who believe that he is what America needs, fine. But don't attempt to justify his indiscretions. Acknowledge that he has faults and continue to support him for whatever other illusions you have about him.

Right now we have two major party presidential nominees who cannot debate without the audience expecting to hear the Jerry Springer boxing bell ring at any moment. What's worse is that many Americans seem to actually like that this is what our politics have been reduced to, and they enjoy taking part in the charade. Clinton and Trump sound like my Facebook and Twitter feeds look, and I am completely embarrassed to even be an American during this election. Most of you judge the "winner" of the debate by who throws the best insults. Wtf is that? That isn't government. That isn't democracy. That is reality television in all its disgrace, and it's what we as voters have brought on ourselves. Your bed is made, and I can't sleep anymore.

Monday, August 15, 2016

Cut the Cattiness

I can't believe I'm seeing so many women on Facebook attacking women because they have issues with her husband's political stances. I despise Donald Trump and didn't vote for Barack Obama, but I don't attack Melania Trump because she posed nude when she was a model for a living, or call Michelle Obama a man because she doesn't fit into everyone's view of what fragile beauty should look like (and who the heck wants to be fragile anyway? Fragile things break). Let's be above that. We can't as women demand respect and fight for women's rights and equal pay and then turn around and belittle and degrade our sisters. Cut that crap out.

Friday, July 8, 2016

License to Kill

It is my opinion that Alton Sterling and Philando Castile would not have been shot and killed by police officers if they were white.

Monday, July 4, 2016

Fear and Loathing

This whole election cycle is insane. It seems to be the trend for Republican vs. Democrat elections. It gets worse every election year. That's why I vote third party. Imagine if there were always other, viable options that were given the same main-ring-of-the-three-ring-circus media attention that the embarrassing Republican and Democratic candidates get. Imagine if propaganda about "wasted votes" and fear mongering over wasted votes potentially contributing to the worse of two evils being elected because you didn't vote for the lesser evil, just stopped. Imagine that enough people started voting for independents and third party candidates and we started having real people in office who care about issues and facts, rather than sideshow freaks who are afraid they may lose their role in the main ring of the circus and make up their own issues and facts to harvest votes and keep them there.

Wednesday, June 29, 2016

The Bewildered Herd

After this post my plan is to just talk about my kids on Facebook until after November. But first I'd like to point out a couple of things:

1. I have seen several people who call themselves liberals or progressives talk about how rude and unwavering and uneducated conservatives are. Now I see those same people arguing with professed supporters of their same ideologies over how dumb people who will only support Bernie or Hillary are. You sound silly. You sound like the Republicans and conservatives you claim to be smarter than. 

2. Trump supporters still have no idea what Donald Trump actually plans to do to make America great again, and apparently neither does Donald Trump.

3. You would think by the way some of you are commenting on the whole Hillary/Donald spectacle that the President of the United States is an authoritarian. Fortunately, when either Donald Trump or Hillary Clinton gets elected we have checks and balances. Not that I trust Congress to look out for anyone but themselves, but there isn't just one dictator making laws for all of us, and we even have a Supreme Court to ensure constitutional law is upheld. Certainly things might go slightly left or right, but we aren't suddenly going to ban all guns or ban all Muslims or whatever else propaganda has you believing. You guys kill me.

4. The rest of the world is laughing at us.

Friday, April 29, 2016

Maybe Not the American Dream, but Mine

 
If someone would just buy me this camper and let me trade my car in for a hooptie V6 with a trailer hitch that will pull it, I will donate all of my hoarded belongings and live a happy life of self sufficiency and freedom. All I want out of life is freedom from a 9-5 hell that requires unpaid overtime and constant regret if I have to take time off to nurse sick children or a sick self, a life where I can spend time with my children to teach them the important things in life rather than shooing them away so I can slave away just to pay the bills, a life where I can write and make art and grow food and live without the constraints of American consumerism and corporate greed. Why has life become a struggle in this country? When did we become pawns in corporate executives' and politicians' quests for power? When did we start caring about reality television and partisan media and stop caring about our own emotional, physical, and mental well being, and more importantly, the emotional, physical, and mental well being of the children that we raise?
 
So anyway, yeah. Anyone wanna buy me this meager camper? Just kidding. I might buy it myself.

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Divide and Conquer

We live in a country where the only difference between drug lords and Wall Street executives is that lawmakers only wage war on the trade of one. Millennials and the Internet nation fight for change with grassroots campaigns to criminalize bankers and free the drug lords while law enforcement wages war on college students who know a guy who knows where to get an ounce of marijuana. This is a country where a felony drug conviction prevents one from getting a fair paying job or a government-funded education but not from running for or holding political office. Our states don't want to pay a living wage for jobs that don't require a higher education but want people to be forever indebted to their government in order to receive a degree. Survival skills have a dual meaning of cooking boxed macaroni on a propane stove, all emblazoned with corporate logos, and that stuff that famous people do in front of camera crews on a television program littered with more corporate advertisement to consume. Freedom is no more than an illusion spread by propaganda of the public schooling system, a system that isn't good enough to prepare its students to either survive on the land or earn a living wage from a multimillion dollar company. Even with self taught or government funded survival skills, a man can no longer fish or hunt or sow seed without permission from the state. The American Dream was once symbolized by average joes supporting their families without struggle but now amounts to little more than being the top commenter on a Reddit post. Guerrilla fighters hide behind a glass screen and berate anyone who made lives for their children by branding them with affluenza and justify poor diet and hygiene by calling it body confidence. A woman can undress in front of camera and call it art, but someone is still going to call her a slut. People can argue semantics with strangers on Facebook for three hours without breaking but can't spend three minutes listening to their children. United we stand, yet divided we remain.